March 10, 2005

Who knew?

After trying for so long, and actually doing IVF once, who knew that all I had to do was get laid off from my job for my wife to get pregnant the old fashioned way?

We went to Hôpital St-Luc to have the blood test done this morning. It's kind of ironic really, we had an appointment this afternoon to see the IVF guy about starting another round of fertility treatment that we no longer will need. It's been quite a month, what with getting laid off and applying for a PhD. Now I've got nine more to look forward before becoming a father.

Lots to do. First up: Gotta get a Belgian driver's license. I've been told in no uncertain terms "I am not driving myself to the maternity ward." Second, this is the last summer that I can spend running off to study languages. I need to make some decisions about that. If I can find a three month Chinese program, I think I'm just going to do it.

I'm trying not to focus on all that can still go wrong. After trying so hard for so long to get pregnant - and thinking a medically unassisted pregnancy was out of the question - it's hard not to worry, not to fear that it may all still go catastrophically south. But there's little to gain from worrying, so I'm trying not to.

Posted 2005/03/10 23:31 (Thu) | TrackBack

Congratulations! Hope it all works out well.

Posted by: Nick at March 11, 2005 1:58

Congratulations! I'm very happy for you. Just told my wife about it... she knows how fond I am of you, so she shares my enthusiasm.

Posted by: pedro at March 11, 2005 5:48

Wow. That's wonderful. Congratulations, Scott.

Posted by: David Weman at March 11, 2005 8:00

And congratulations, Kiera!

Posted by: David Weman at March 11, 2005 8:01

F?licitations / gefeliciteerd!

(You are having a Belgian baby, after all...)

Posted by: vaara at March 11, 2005 13:18

Alas, the new generation of Martens is not going to have Belgian citizenship at birth. Belgium is a mostly jus sanginus jurisdiction. If the kid has lived in Belgium for ten years, he or she can become a citizen by declaration. Or, if I get citizenship it's automatically extended to my Belgian born child retroactively.

And thanks everybody. It's going to take a little while for me before it's fully real. I'm lucky, I guess. I was always planning on quitting my job if Kiera got pregnant. Now, I end up doing the same thing only I get compensation and unemployment insurance. But no kinderbijslag. If I do get it, they take it out of the wife's pay. But she gets a raise for having a dependent spouse and child.

Posted by: Scott Martens at March 11, 2005 13:53

Scott - congratulations! You're in for a long, great, and exhausting trip, m'boy!

Posted by: aardvark at March 11, 2005 14:57

Scott and Kiera, congratulations!

Posted by: Peter Dirix at March 11, 2005 18:52

Congratulations to the whole family!

Posted by: Jeremy Leader at March 12, 2005 0:55

Nice going Scott & Kiera! I foresee light posting for the next 18 years or so...

Posted by: jamie at March 13, 2005 18:05

Congrats, Scott.

Posted by: Brad at March 13, 2005 22:10

Many congratulations to you both!

Posted by: Russell Arben Fox at March 15, 2005 23:58
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